My dear friend, I am so glad you decided to stop by. I have no idea why this has been so heavy on my heart, but it has been. And I feel like God is urging me to share it.
The days seem so long sometimes, don’t they? Not always! But occasionally, there are those days… I’m sure you know exactly what I’m talking about. Well allow me to share my day with you. A little over a week ago, I had a very hard day. Nothing major happened – but everything piles up, and you just need to cry or talk to someone about it. It was freezing cold outside, my kids were both sick, they were up all through the night, they needed me, I was dead tired, my husband was gone shoveling into the early early hours of the morning, I wanted to cry, I needed my husband, I wanted my kids to sleep so I could sleep, and I knew I’d have to wake up and take care of them allll day the next day, too. It was simply overwhelming and seemed like SO much to bear.
We were up around 7, and I went about the day taking care of the kids like I always do. Yes, still tired. But those babies need me! You just have to keep going even when you don’t feel like it. My husband had to leave for work, and I was trying to prepare myself for this loooong day ahead. To be honest, the day went by – it was long, and I did ok until early afternoon. My mom called me on her way home from work, and I literally had nothing to say. I just sat there quietly, and she asked those three words, “Are you okay?”
Queue the tears.
I cried. Then cried some more. I mean, I couldn’t catch my breath crying. She was the ONLY person I had talked to all day long. I am NOT having a pity party right now – but I quickly realized, “Haley, I bet you there are so many other moms out there who are home with their kids who haven’t talked to anyone today either. You are not alone. Everything is going to be ok.”
And after talking to my mom and explaining to her that I just felt alone, she assured me that I am not.
It might be so hard to see a light while you’re going through these long, tiring days, but please – may I encourage you to reach out to someone!? Ask someone to pray for you because you’re having a rough day. I can almost guarantee, you will feel encouraged by asking someone to pray for you. God wants you to know that HE IS THERE to hold you. He’s there when you’re having the best day of your life, the funnest day with your kids, and He’s there on the worst days and in the worst times of your life.
The devil wants me to keep it to myself and wallow in self-pity. The devil likes to tell us that “our problems are nothing and nobody cares, and if you tell someone you’re struggling, you’re not strong anymore.”
You are an incredible mom. No matter what the circumstances are. You’re doing a great job — I mean that. God created you for those babies, and they need you! Be confident in the fact that God gave you those precious babies, and you are the best mom out there!
I was listening to a song earlier, and the backstory on it was that so many horrible things were happening in this man’s life, and he kept asking God to “please make everything better. Please stop letting these bad things happen to people I love!” But he came to the realization that instead of praying for God to change the circumstances around him, he began to ask God to change him, and to help him handle these trials with God’s help. Isn’t that amazing?
GOD WANTS TO HELP US! He simply wants us to ask Him for his help!
I did NOT ever plan on sharing this or anything like this. I simply shared my short story to hopefully be an encouragement to other mommas out there. Even after I posted it, I still had those thoughts of “Haley, nobody cares! Why would you share that?“
BUT I AM TELLING YOU……… THE AMOUNT OF MESSAGES I GOT WAS OVERWHELMING. LIKE IT MADE ME WANT TO CRY. People telling me they were encouraged. People thanking me for being real. People asking me to pray for them. People sharing their own stories with me.
And I thought it was a bad idea to be real and to share a real life moment on social media. That just showed me that whenever you think you’re the only one going through it and no one understands, no one cares – you’re wrong. Don’t listen to that voice. There is always someone who cares.